Each month Nick Cave answers a fan-submitted question and sends his response via his newsletter and website The Red Hand Files. This month Cave tackled a very personal issue - he was asked about whether he communicates through dreams with his son Arthur, who tragically died in an accident in 2015 at the age of 15. Cave's response was exquisite, beautiful, and full of love. An excerpt from his response is below. View his full response here.
"It seems to me, that if we love, we grieve. That’s the deal. That’s the pact. Grief and love are forever intertwined. Grief is the terrible reminder of the depths of our love and, like love, grief is non-negotiable. There is a vastness to grief that overwhelms our minuscule selves. We are tiny, trembling clusters of atoms subsumed within grief’s awesome presence. It occupies the core of our being and extends through our fingers to the limits of the universe. Within that whirling gyre all manner of madnesses exist; ghosts and spirits and dream visitations, and everything else that we, in our anguish, will into existence. These are precious gifts that are as valid and as real as we need them to be. They are the spirit guides that lead us out of the darkness."
Published November 4th, 2018